FOR A TANGIBLE/REGISTRY GIFT - We know writing over a hundred thank you cards can get tiring, but it is important to let your guests know that you appreciate their thoughtfulness! For gifts you receive from your registry, or for gifts that are not cash or a gift card, we recommend using some variation of the wording shown in the card at left. Some key things to include in your note to thank your guest(s) graciously: 1) Mention the gift by name, 2) Mention how you will use it or note how it looks in your home, 3) Make a personal mention of enjoying their company at the wedding or of seeing them in the near future.
FOR CASH OR A GIFT CERTIFICATE - When writing a thank you note for cash or a gift certificate the wording should change slightly. It is not necessary to include the specific amount given, but it is always good to mention that you are saving for something signficant and include how their gift will contribute to reaching that goal. At the end, add a personal note about seeing the giver soon that involves their gift, such as inviting them to your new home, showing them pictures of your trip, etc. If the giver wasn’t present at the wedding, then mention that you missed seeing them and hope to share photos with them soon!
WHEN TO SEND - It is ideal to send thank you notes within six to eight weeks of your wedding. However, traditional etiquette suggests that thank you notes can be sent within the first year of marriage, though we do not recommend waiting this long. It is always a nice touch to send thank you notes to guests who attended your wedding, even if they did not give a gift, as well as wedding vendors who may have done a particularly outstanding job or with whom you worked especially closely, such as your planner or photographer.
ADDRESSING THE ENVELOPES - Envelopes should always be addressed, by hand, to the person who attended the wedding or gave the gift. If the gift is from a family, the envelope should be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. So and So and the note itself should be addressed using the individual first names for all members of the family.
MONOGRAMS - In lieu of having the words “thank you” printed on the card, a monogram can be substituted, now that you are a married couple. Your married monogram would have three letters: his first initial, your shared last initial, and your first initial. See below for an example: